here’s a question that’s on my mind tonight. i’d love to hear your thoughts on why you choose the way you do.
which is better?
(1.) a friend who always cheers you on, sometimes to the point of either ignoring or minimizing your limitations, or
(2.) a friend who offers encouragement, but tempers it with a “realistic” assesment of your limitations.
just got off the phone with my good friend, paul. besides being a great hang - he’s one of the funniest people i know - paul is a very genuine person. paul is a fellow musician. we used to serve on staff together in the music department at our former church. even though we now live in different states, we still keep in regular contact. he is one of my biggest supporters. paul has the gift of encouragement. i hope that i provide half the encouragement to him as i receive.
we all need people who believe in us. people who have confidence that we can acheive our dreams. confidence in us and sometimes confidence for us. the world is full of naysayers, am i right? i’m painfully aware of my own shortcomings and the apparent limits of my talent and giftedness. a lot of times, paul doesn’t seem to be aware of those limits in me. sometimes after taking a beating with paul’s encouragement club, i hang up the phone actually believing that i can acheive more. because i know, love and respect paul, i tend to respect what he says about me.
what do you think?


